Fog Monster, G. Reid Helms

One common theme that has consistently been brought up during my various sessions of Resonance Repatterning and Consultations among recent clients from the Internet Marketing world has been Greed.  I offer these types of sessions to this specific market as IM’ers are very open to the idea of getting their Inner Game aligned to experience profund success in thier Outer Game- this makes them very receptive to the ideas of Energy and how Energy works and flows through us.

Greed isn’t so much wanting more and more even though we may have so much already- that’s normal.  That’s being simply human.  We all foster needs and wants and desires that cause us to expand, that’s just Life.  Greed is something else entirely- an idea, a perception that has been mis-translated and barely understood.

It’s ok to want… it’s perfectly natural. Buddha even acknowledges this when he delivered his Lotus Sutra on Eagle Mountain . He tells all present that have been studying him and his other Sutras that the idea of nirvana and obtaining it, by eliminating desire, is itself a desire- a wanting, a longing. Only with that desire is one able to expand and grow. By explaining to others that their quest of not wanting desires, was itself a desire, he allowed an intricate explanation of human nature to be told through a spiritual perspective. Indeed, the more desires one has, the more one will expand and grow- but they are doing so because of the desire, not due to it. It’s an important distinction.

Greed is having all you need to be happy, right here and right now and also being able to get to other places of happiness, but not using those resources and then asking for more to do what you already can.

Why would anyone even need to be greedy?  Good question, glad you asked…

a) Because they don’t know they are already capable of doing whatever it is they want to do, and,

b) Because they don’t know all the tools, people, and events needed to do what they want to do are already lined up and waiting to be a part of that action.

Need some “real” world examples?

Warranties and Gurantees:  Since I  still spend a few hours each week dealing with I.T. policy and I.T acquisitions, reviewing applicable codes, laws, and regulations, warranties and guarantees remain one of the most costly unnecessary expenditures in budgets I see.  Warranties make the purchasing agent and managing buyers have a warm and fuzzy feel good selling point.  If something goes wrong with the hardware or software, hey- “it’s covered”.  Are warranties and extended coverage plans really worth the 1.2 million on an 11 million contract?  No, but we have a great feeling about the product because we can plan our life cycle costs around the fact that we’ll use this hardware/software for the next 5 years.  Hmmm… why not expand your I.T. section with one an extra technician ($55,000/yr) for 5 years ($275,000 plus health care, taxes, etc) whose sole job is hardware/software maintenance on that equipment and send that person to the vendor’s training to become certified on that product (up to $45,000.00 in fees).

The Vendor is exploiting that natural Greed in the buyer.  Selling something extra (warranty) on top of a product also exploits ignorance.  If the product is already a valued product, then it should work, and it should perform.  Selling a warranty with it is slight admission that maybe it’s not that valuable, or won’t perform the way the Vendor says it should.  However, The buyer and The Vendor alreadyknow that a small percentage of the prodcut, over a period of time, will break down- it’s just simple statistics.  The Vendor is simply promising to do what the Buyer could do (with the extra I.T. tech) if “something” happens… see, Greed is a two way street.   The Buyer is purchasing something based on a perception of lack, not abundance- “this product will eventually break” instead of “this is a product I value and it will perform how I need it to”.

The one that got away: We should all be able to relate to this example…  the girlfriend/boyfriend/job/buisness that we just couldnt hold on to.  Somehow, it left our lives and left us clamoring to get it back.  the loss of it really affected us, and often we didn’t even see the loss of it coming.  We feebly try to replace it once we know we can’t obtain it again, yet that action too fails.  Greed in this case is a matter of ignorance, in not knowing that although the original object we lost may be unobtainable, we can still manifest what we would like- and often do once we “let go” of that original object.  However, we remain too confused and unclear and focused solely on re-obtaining what is no longer there, allowing our actions to be based on lack.

The silver bullet: The myth we create for ourselves that “everything” will be all right and ok, when and only when, this one Action is successfully done.  “I can retire early if….”, “I’ll be rich if….”, “She’ll be ok if…”, “I won’t lose my house if…”.  It’s pure Greed as it places the onus of responsibility on that action itself, instead of where it needs to be, on ourselves.  It allows us the subliminal thought process that indeed nothing right now is ok or all right until this action is completed successfully, that I am myself not ok or all right until this one action is successfully ompleted.

There is a common theme in these examples:  How greed is applied and manipulated through our actions.

Lack Based Actions and Fear Based Actions are actions we undertake from a point of, of course, lack and fear.  We’re doing something becuase we know we don’t have something.  This can only allow struggles and obstacles, hardships and defeat.  Paddling upstream hard enough may eventually get us to our goal, but too often we get caught up in the power of it, and it pushes us further downstream.

Inspired Actions are actions undertaken when everything in our reality tells us to undertake it.  You may be thinking of writing a book, and several people in a month might mention to you that you should write a book or a book, email, pamphlet may come into your reality explaining it’s never easier these days to write a book and how you can do it…  Inspired actions are the easiest because they are literally the path of least resistance… it just feels natural to do it.

When Actions are undertaken with a sense of greed, they tend to usually fail.  When Actions are undertaken with a sense of being inspired to do it, they tend to usually succeed.

Take any field, any career path, any person that is successfully doing what they are doing, and you’ll notice that they’re doing it because they love it, because they were inspired to do it, and by doing it, it is inspiring them to do even other and greater things.  They are loving what they do, otherwise they wouldnt be doing it.

If you’re not doing what you love, if you’re not being inspired to do things you love, then why?  Can it be traced back to the state of perception you undertake your actions with?  If so, then why? If things are hard and unbearable and filled with obstacles, then why are you choosing the path of most resistance?

What specifically, is disallowing you from traveling the path of least resistance to your goal, desire, objective?  The easiest objections to this statement are the ones that are probably causing the hardest obstacles to appear.

For exmaple, “I’d love to travel the world, but, I have a mortgage payment each month and have to work.”  His  real desire was to travel yet he couldn’t because he had a “normal” job he didn’t particularly like- ironically, in the travel industry.  His primary Desire was coming through loud and clear, and he thought that by working for that industry he’d be able to travel, yet this wasn’t the case.  So, after four sessions over a three month period, he realized that traveling was his inspired action.  He was able to sell his house with realtive ease in the current D.C. market, quit his job, and is following the detailed mind map of all the places he’d like to see.  With his knowledge of the travel industry he beaome an independent travel agent to several online companies- a self owned business he can perform anywhere in the world with internet access.  Additionally, he’s discovering multiple streams of revenue by capitalizing on his travel experiences by writing (and monetizing) different blogs related to travel and specific geographic regions.  He’s “working” about 4 – 6 hours a day while travleing across the world.  He’s done all this in the last 5 months.  Do you see how “Greed” was actually preventing him from his goal in the first place?  He wanted to travel the world, but couldn’t, because he didn’t believe in himself enough.  In the end, Chad’s doing great for himself.

Another recent example, “I  need to be at home with my daughter but have to work so much I can’t.”  This single Mother of one lameneted her dismay to me at never having enough time to be with her 4 year old.  During the first session with her, she even complained that she should be spending that hour with her daughter instead of me.  Her desire was more time with her daughter, her reality was that she never had that time- and she didn’t.  Her position required 10 – 20 hours of overtime each week.  She wasn’t worried about money, she had that and was quite affluent.  We spent three sessions over a two month period together.  Once she “gave in” to her primary Desire, an opening in her firm came open- one that paid a little less and had less responsibility.  At the same time, she inquired into openings at a competitors firm, and was offered a similar position. She approached her Regional Director with a solution to her problem (which alone takes a great amount of intestinal fortitude), allow her to slowly transition into this other position while working from home, or she would work for a competitor.  Guess what that Regional director chose.  While she’s still working (from home), it’s only a few hours each day and she can spend the remainder of the time with her daughter.  She was so caught up in the Desire of what she wanted, she didnt know that she alone could provide herself the answer to her steps of Inspired Action.

If you’d like to know more about Resonance Repatterning, Techniques of Organic Marketing, or how Energy is all we have to work with, drop me a line at shiftedenergy.com

Be Inspired!

Big Hugs,

Cherry Creek Fire

There’s always times that someone looking for help or advice makes their way into your Life and your Perceptions.  While it’s “nice” to be helpful, at times many are just in a place that you don’t, and don’t want to, resonate with.  As an example, maybe a friend of yours is having some relationship problems, maybe a family member is having financial problems, maybe a business partner is having some legal troubles…. whatever the case may be, they’ve come to you for advice, assistance, help, a friendly shoulder to lean or cry on, someone to hear them out.  While it’s certainly fine to listen, they are usually in a place that will prevent them from really hearing what you have to say.

Let me reiterate that.  They are usually in a  place that will prevent them from fully hearing, fully understanding, and fully comprehending whatever tip, piece of advice, or comforting words you offer. The only way they will hear and understand is if you can relate to them, vibrationally and energetically.  They are attempting (or perhaps unconsciously manipulating) to get you to “see” them as someone with this dis-ease or dis-comfort.  You get me?  When and if you do, then you’re only doing a dis-service to them, and more importantly, to you.  To “see” them as they are presenting themselves means you have allowed yourself to become temporarily disconnected from your Source and stream of Life and Energy.  You have chosen to “see” them not as who they could be, their version of their highest self, but as someone, consumed with what ails them, is cutting themselves off from their own Source and Stream of Life.

Let’s step back a bit.  There’s only Well Being, right?  If you don’t believe that, then this might not make a whole lot of sense.  It’s really all about where we allow ourselves to exist- on a material and spiritual, non-physical, level.  There aren’t any victims, and only we are responsible for where, when, who, and how we are. When we consciously choose the best feeling thought, the best feeling emotion, the best feeling and inspired actions, then we’re allowing that into our life, that what we create.

By choosing to “see” someone needing advice, help, in the midst of their often overwhelming problems, and then rendering aide, you’re bringing yourself closer to them vibrationally.  They won’t understand your message or advice or solution because you’re already coming from a point diametrically opposed from where they are, otherwise they wouldn’t really be coming to you for help, etc, would they?  You’re in a place they’re not- there’s really no way they can “get” your message until they allow themselves to match your vibration and energy.  The more you keep giving what they need, the closer you match their vibration until they do “get” what you’ve been telling them… Now the problem is, you’re not happy because they still have a problem, they’re not happy with your bad advice AND they still have their problem, and the problem is still there without any solution or cure.  Sounds like a winning scenario right?

Wouldn’t it be better for all involved if you were just a little selfish?  What if, instead of giving them what they need or ask for, you choose instead to:

a)  see them as they really are, a vibrant radiant energetic being knowing only well-being.  The who they would like to be, their version of their highest self.

b) choose to continue to be happy regardless of the person asking for your help or advice, and regardless of their problem.

c) Appreciate them for who they really are and that their presence allows in you the reminder to continually choose for yourself the best feeling thoughts, ideas, emotions, and actions.

You’ll be happy (still), by not allowing yourself to “see” them as they are presenting themselves, their version of What Is, they come closer to your Energy. Or your Energy just repels them.  They may still have the problem, and go to others for what they perceive you have failed to give them, but you’ve chosen to see them as something else.  When they sense that you fail to see them “with their problem”, this very well changes their notion of who they could be, and when around you in the future, may not bring that problem with them.

You still get me?

In case you’re still wandering, the “rudest” questions I asked are:

“Are you Happy?”

“What do you want?”

“Who are you?”

Big Hugs,

J. Henry

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At that time, the men and women (yes, there were a few) I most admired were older Vietnam Vets, getting ready to retire after 20 years of service. They were themselves lowly Privates and Corporals during that previous engagement in southeast Asia, and were now Sergeant First Class’, First Sergeants’, and Sergeant Majors. Some had been such troublemakers that they would get rank (be promoted) only to slide down the ladder (get demoted) for hitting officers, DUI’s, or plain disrespect to their “superiors”. During BCT and the later Advanced Training (AIT) I received, I savored every story and tidbit of knowledge they would share with me, privately and in group settings. Smoking joints on the back of M60 tanks, Dropping science (ingesting LSD) and going out on patrols, surfing on Mui Ne Beach at night to avoid enemy fire… these men and women were rebels in fatigues. They knew the game, how it was played, and how to teach and instruct others in the game. The game was, how to be a soldier without losing your sense of self and getting caught up in the “protocol” and “official-ness” of actually being a soldier. Many of these warriors savored a chance to end their career on a high-note, by fighting once again.

During my AIT in Ft. Huachuca, AZ I learned more from them then the stale classes I was required to take and pass to be qualified and certified to do the position I had enlisted for. I would often tease and taunt others for not “getting” the simplicity of what they were learning. Of course, this would often lead to physical fights which would then lead to me standing before my Company Commander (a commissioned officer, usually called CO, short for commanding officer) at attention (a standing position where your knees are locked and hands rigid at your side), explaining why I did what I did. I was always accompanied by a senior Non-Commissioned Officer (NCO) of the Company, Sergeant First Class Hayes. He was an imposing 6′3, about 280 pounds of muscle, 40-ish, black man with a 1st of the 6th Combat Patch from Vietnam on his right shoulder. He would stand behind me and speak to the CO on my behalf usually after I would break protocol by sticking my foot in my mouth and saying something smarmy.

The first two times this happened he would assure the CO it would not happen again. Outside the office he would put his hand on my shoulder, spin me around, slap me on my bald head (when NCO’s were still “allowed” to), bend down to get nose to nose with me- close enough that I could smell his rancid, kimchi-laden breath- and scream, loud enough for the CO behind the closed door to hear and close enough to cover my face with droplets of spit, “What the F**K were you thinking, who the F**K do you think you are Private Henry, I don’t like your F*****G face but you’re making me be in it, get your F*****G battle dress on cause I’m gonna work that A**!”

For those that don’t know, battle dress is the full compliment of gear worn into battle- your rucksack, your NBC (nuclear, biological and chemical) mask, your M60 (full auto machine gun if you were dumb or unlucky enough to “volunteer” to carry it instead of the much lighter M16A2), two full canteens of water, various first aid pouches and ammunition clips, etc… about 40 – 50 pounds of equipment.   SFC Hayes would stand in the cool shade of the building, just outside the window of the CO while I was on a concrete pad in the brutal Arizona heat- screaming various things for me to do… 100 front leaning rests (push-ups), 100 flutter kicks, 100 counts of jogging in place while hoisting my M60 up and down above my head. At times, and probably for the benefit of curious onlookers, he would lazily walk around me to scream obscenities and detail what a royal pain in the A** I was. Usually, after about 90 minutes of this, the CO would open his window, call SFC Hayes over, and I’d then hear “Henry- get your sorry A** over here”. He’d ask if I was going to screw up again, and of course, to get out of the heat and physically exerting exercises, I’d scream “No Sergeant”. I’d be dismissed to my barracks to clean up and return to the training class.

What I would later discover was that SFC Hayes punishment saved me from various Article 15’s and other “official forms of administrative actions”.  It was all show for the CO, something he could notate in a file to show his superiors, if the occassion ever arose.   SFC Hayes would insert himself between me and the CO, telling the CO that he would take care of me.  And he did.

The third time this happened I was expecting more of the same. However, the person I beat down, Sergeant McIntyre, a “retread”, (someone reclassifying from one specialty to another) receiving training in my class, made a *big* issue of it. Sure, he was embarrassed at having received an a** whipping from a lowly private, but more importantly, it became an issue of disrespect. To me, SGT McIntyre was just wrong in how he addressed a fellow female soldier in my class…

This time, SFC Hayes didn’t spin me around, didn’t lead me outside to mete his special form of “punishment”. Instead, we went to the local pub, conveniently behind Riley Barracks. You could buy alcohol, on post, as an 18 year old- It was allowed to prevent the young soldiers from going off post and then driving drunk. I was more scared of what was going to happen then I ever had been before.

SFC Hayes bought us a pitcher of MGD. He broke out his Newports. Took off his brown round (a distinctive drill Sergeant hat) and BDU top, then sat in silence while he stared at me and finished his first plastic cup of MGD. When he spoke, it was a lowered and hushed tone, a tone that was very private and for me alone to hear.  He explained that he was for now, not SFC Hayes, but a person, talking to me one on one.  He told me he was going to talk and he would appreciate it if I just shut up and listened. He began by saying he liked me. That he saw a lot of the younger version of himself in me, that he liked the fact I had balls big enough to put other people in their place when they got out of line. That his cadre of NCO’s got a kick out of my antics in the classroom and out, but they couldn’t share that with me as I was still in training and not yet “officially” a soldier. He confided in me that even the CO told him that he saw a lot of potential in me, if my rough edges could be taken care of. The CO and SFC Hayes saw nothing wrong in what I did as Sergeant McIntrye deserved an a** beating for berating a female soldier, PVT Brown- it was not his place as a Trainee, to do so. However, Sergeant McIntyre went above the CO’s head and complained directly to the Battalion Commander. Doing physical exercises outside of that Commander’s window was out of the question as that Commander wanted to make an example of me. “We’re going to war, and you’re a loose cannon Henry- he wants to make an example of you by kicking you out with a dishonorable discharge.”

While I really didn’t care one way or another, SFC Hayes did. In the end I did what the CO and SFC Hayes suggested, I personally apologized to SGT McIntyre in front of my training class. SFC Hayes confronted SGT McIntyre on my behalf and made it clear that if he pursued any type of action against me, SFC Hayes would escort PVT Brown to the local EEO (equal employment opportunity) office and lodge a sexual harassment complaint against SGT McIntyre, effectively ending his career. Things worked out pleasantly.

SFC Hayes and I talked for about three hours and seven or eight pitchers of MGD that day. My Army training took on a different caliber. He told me some of his most memorable Vietnam stories and how he survived as a black man in a predominantly white post-Vietnam Army. I had never known that SFC Hayes had actually obtained the rank of Sergeant Major (E-9) before sliding down the ladder to an E-7 after he lost his temper at a foolish white Second Lieutenant who made the mistake of calling him “Boy”.

Sometimes the Universe puts someone in front of you that is willing to share knowledge with you and teach you something about Life.  SFC Hayes brought me to a realization, now almost a metaphysical reality to many in this age of Law of Attraction. He told me that in the Army, what you are, what rank you are, what position you hold, just doesn’t matter one damn bit. If you’re an E-4 and want to become a Sergeant (E-5), then act like one. If you’re an E-5, then act like an E-6. He put a spin on it, and told me whether I’m in the Army or not “What Is, Right Here and Right Now” does not matter except to those caught up in that game. If you play your own game, and can project your version of “What Is” onto the “What Is” of the real world, then your version will always win out. No exceptions.

If you get caught up in the “What Is” of right now, then you may never be in a state of mind to project your version of “What Is” onto your Life. “What Is”, is merely indicative of what’s already been created. It’s like trying to drive down a straight road while looking in your rear view mirror to see if you’re still between the white lines. It “works”, but what happens when you try to steer around a curve?

Wouldn’t you really rather create your OWN “What Is”? You can. Many people have. Many people are. Would you rather focus on the fact that you are not wealthy/healthy/loved, or would you rather focus on the fact that in your mind you are wealthy/healthy/loved, etc…?

If you’re not a millionaire or wealthy enough to not have to work, then find out what the attributes of millionaires are and begin incorporating them into your own life.

If you’re not loved, then find out what makes people be loved, then start acting like that.

You don’t have to be or have something to act like you have or are someone.  That’s the trick SFC Hayes taught me long before the Law of Attraction and The Secret re-worded it.

SFC Hayes became an E-9 (again). I kept track of him and was proud to see his name on the promotion list in the Army Times. He retired and lived in Sierra Vista, the small town close to Ft. Huachuca, AZ. I visited him several times while in college and we’d go to the local biker bar, the Sorry Gulch Saloon, to share a few beers (on my dime of course) and stories. He was a great source of advice and inspiration. He’s since passed, but his wisdom is worth sharing.

Keep on Keeping on and creating all the while,

Big Hugs,

J.Henry

We first met in Ft. Stewart, GA.  He had a beat up Honda Accord that he threw all his spare money into- custom manifolds, custom exhausts, custom car stereo….  On weekends, he’d bungee cord his surfboard to the roof and drive off to the beaches between Hilton Head Island and Jekyll Island always looking for some better waves.  I joined him many times and for the most part, we both decided waves were better on the West Coast.

He was a classic kuncklehead.  Never on time.  Always had money problems.  Loved to backtalk and make sarcastic replies.  Women loved, then hated him.  And he was always getting tickets.  His life was a mess, and the longer I knew him while we were  both still in the Army, the more he spiraled downward and out of control.

After I had left to pursue other callings of my own life, Rob did something, well, quite amazing.  To this day, it still impresses me.  Not the fact that he decided to do it, but the fact that he recognized this question, this basic question of life, so early on.  His girlfriend had dumped him after draining his bank accounts (he was a trusting guy, and still is) while he was in Kosovo.  Bungee cords gave way and deposited his surfboard on GA State Route 26.  Then his car was stolen.  His rebelliousness against all military command was the cause of his demotion and several Article 15’s.  Then he failed a urinalysis test.  All this within a month.

I had been keeping up with him via brief phone calls now and then and talked to him at the tail end of all this.  Rather than be upset, angry, and pissed off at all the things that had gone wrong in that Month of Calamity, he was calm, happy, and well.. aloof.  He told me he woke up one morning, and decided that he could be Happy or Angry.  We talked about it more.  This was NEWS to me.   If he could be happy in spite of all the crap thats gone wrong, then how happy would he be when everything goes right?  He told me all that stuff didn’t matter- the surfboard, the car, the girlfriend that he had fallen in love with, the thousands that she ran off with.  All that did matter, to him, was that he stay happy. I’ve heard some of his other friends call him the most selfish person they know because of this. He doesn’t care because he knows, without a doubt, that he alone is responsible for his own happiness and he has made that the focal point of his life.

That’s it.  One decision made one morning and Rob’s life changed immaculately and forever.  Sure, life still tested him and threw him curve balls- but he’s been happy, genuinely happy, since he made that decision.  He’s one of the funniest guys I know, and being around him makes me happy. He has a joyous Energy around him.  He’s also one of the “luckiest” guys I know…

He’s gone from being broke and living in a trailer (surfing all day and living off of unemployment after his army days) to being rich and living in a RV.  He owns several construction companies in Southern California and lets other people manage them while he travels up and down the coast chasing waves. While some people may not equate being rich with living in a RV, to him, it’s the ultimate expression of freedom- the ability to pick up and move on to wherever he damn well pleases.

It wasn’t that one momentous decision that allowed him to be happy, it was a series of steps and smaller decisions he had undertaken – all the things that had gone “wrong” in his life and the emotions he attached to them…that allowed him to climb to the point where he could, by setting his intentions into words, choose to just be happy.  Once he did that, all the stuff that had gone “wrong” before just no longer mattered to him.  His point of focus was so powerful that morning he woke up and decided to be happy, that he’s never had to revisit or question that decision and his response.  It’s become his normal.

When I talk to Rob now, he’s never consumed by all that he’s achieved. It’s just his own personal path of progression and evolution guided by his singular desire to just be happy. All that he’s achieved has just been his path to his happiness, and every step of the way, he remained happy and joyful. Think about that. When I knew him in the Army he had just turned 19. He did terrible in school because he skipped most of his classes every day to catch waves in the morning. He never held a job and had no clue what to do after he graduated. The Army was an easy choice for him because a recruiter promised him he could get stationed in Hawaii. He smoked cheeba, he chased and abused betty’s (the californian term for hot babes), he drove and lived recklessly, he was a double fisted drinker and fighter, and he absolutely hated and rebelled against all authority figures. How could such a walking calamity as he was ever attain what he has in just under 15 years?

He became a plumber in the mid 90’s after his unemployment ran out.  He earned his license based on his military training, then levied those skills to into a plumbing contracting business which he then sold to purchase a small construction company.  When business boomed for him in early 2000, he bought another, then another.  Somehow, the right people came into his life at the right time to do all this- only so Rob could continue to feel happy.  What makes him happy besides surfing?  Not much- but that’s the whole point.  Rob’s Life turned around and provided him a way and a means to do what he loves.  He didn’t start out trying to manifest money or wealth (that was a by-product of his genuine desire to just be happy), but he is now wealthy enough to never have to work another day in his life.

This seems to be the point that most people can never really get right, they just don’t know what they truly love and enjoy to do. They doggedly pursue wealth assuming once they have it, then they’ll be happy. Money is not the engine, it’s just the oil.

He’s on his way to Australia and New Zealand to catch waves out there for a few years.  I keep telling him that eventually he’ll find something else that will make him as happy as surfing, and he tells me that he knows. Then he tells me he also knows his life will provide him the means and the way to be happy doing that as well.

It’s not about the how and the why- it’s only about how you feel!

Big Hugs,

J.Henry

Update: 9 July 09: I spoke with Rob recently. Although he’s still setting things up in Cali. for an extended departure to the land down down under, he did have time to scan a book with me over the phone. It’s from Brian Kim who has a great productivity blog that Rob and I have been reading for a couple of years. We both agreed that this is the most simplest way to find out what makes you happy and gives you the ideas needed to do it. Check it out: Find your Passion!

Update: 18 August 09: Rob has made it to Kiama, Australia.  Tells me “The Boneyard” is where the surf is happening.  Our buddies at Real Subliminal revamped one of their products based on Rob’s wild success story:  Extreme Self Motivation Subliminal Check it out!

This has to be one of the easiest money modalities anyone can do!

It can be done everytime you use your cash or checks.  The only difficult part of it is, is that you’ll have to remember to do it.  Once you’re in the habit of it, you’ll find yourself doing it every time.

What we give out to our environment, we’ll attract.  What we offer, will be vibrationally matched.  This is the essence of the Law of Attraction.  We’ve all heard the sayings about Karma coming back to us 3 times, or 7… or 11.  We probably all remember this gem from the Bible; you’ll reap what you sow.

This simple modality is the easiest way to shift your mind set and energies to a state of allowing and accepting what you’d really like to manifest in your life.

Bless your Money.

Anytime you’re about to hand someone cash… buying something, loaning it to someone, donating it to a worthy cause, tipping a server at a restaurant, the kids allowance…  Bless it, first.  You need not say anything at all, or even let on to the other person that you’re blessing it.  This modality is for and you alone.

For me, I’ve found that the easiest way to do this is by visualizations.  I imagine a small sphere of white light, like the size of a cue ball, and contained within are all my blessings and prayers.  Usually, I try to see the other person before me, about to receive my cash, and quickly think, what is living life to their full potential mean, to them?  I visualize a simple stream of white light from my heart into that cue ball of prayers and blessings and let it surround the money I’m about to hand over, grateful and thankful that my small prayer may  help them towards whatever it is they are seeking.

The last few years I’ve never had more money flow into my life.  This modality helped, but there were others I used as well.  However, this is one of my favorites because it can be done as often as you deal in cash or checks.

However you choose to Bless your Money will be perfect, for you. Just remember to do so when the time comes.

What are we really doing?  We’re creating a vibration that will, and always will be, matched by the Universe.  Because we are sending out blessings, we are also receiving blessings. 3 times over.  7 times over.  11 times over… whatever you want to believe.   The simple act of Blessing your Money is really an energy exchange.  You’re infusing and embedding your cash, something that has become part of your vibrational energy, with blessings and prayers.  Regardless of your current emotional state at the time of doing this, it remains an act of love to bless and pray for someone else- maybe someone you’ve never seen or met before.  Your action, is then, love based.  Because you have allowed love to act through you, you create a vibration that will attract more love to you.

Wait- this is about Money, right?  How’d this simple modality turn all new-agey? It works or it doesn’t, right?

Because you’ve infused your Blessings and Prayers into the money you’re handing someone, and money is the physical medium with which you are allowing your Energy visualizations to manifest through, then you are allowing those same Blessings to be returned to you in that same medium.

Cash and Checks worked for me while I was living overseas, but this modality can be applied to any concept of “Money”.   Credit Cards, Paypal, you name it.  While the latter may prevent you from dealing with someone in person, or conduct business personally, you can still visualize the person, or even company, and perform the modality.

Play around with it.  See how easy it is.  Then, see how easily it’s shifting your perceptions about money, and wealth.  It may even assist you in being picky about who you give your money to, whom and what you choose to bless and send your Energy to.

Still don’t think it will work for you?  Then try this, instead:  Do the modality, and directly afterward make a strong intention… “I intend to be blessed with money in the next 24 hours”, or whatever intention is best for you.  Who knows, maybe you’ll get a sign or an answer, a response… you’ll find a $10 bill in a parking lot; you’ll get an unexpected check in the mail; anything’s possible.

If you try.

Intend Big!

J.Henry

If you like this modality, you should take it further. The following link will help you develop the mental attitude needed to really develop the modality you just read about:
Attract Money In Abundance Subliminal

It’s a word we may not often hear these days.  Hospitality.  Being hospitable.  In deed, maybe we’re not as hospitable as we can or should be.  In idea, maybe we’re not sure of how we can be hospitable.

Being approachable; a warm smile; the ability to hear what someone tells you either through language, indirect statements, or subtle bodycues; a receptive nature.  It’s something we are all capable of.

This theory is nothing new.  It has a long evolution and has been worded and talked of in many different ways.

Esther Hicks and Abraham address it in a new and more applicable method; that whatever positive trait we would like to see and develop in ourselves, we should then see and address those traits in the people that populate our environment.  If we attract what we resonate with, then to see those traits in  others means already that we indeed have those traits ourselves.

Before that, the idea expressed itself in the WWJD bracelets…

It was a catch phrase in the 80’s with “I’m all right, you’re all right”…

The bible mentions it one way as love your neighbor…

And thousands of years ago the Greeks addressed it as well.  It was the core tenet of many Greek beliefs, and was included in their mythologies.  You never knew when Zeus, Hera, Hermes, or any other God might take human form to knock on your door for a dinner.  It wasn’t wise to be inhospitable!

Being hospitable transcends an idea or habit, and allows us to be receptive.  It shifts us into a mind set of welcoming and allowing the changes in Energy we would like to initiate.  It allows a different perspective.

I’ve attended many federal level seminars and trainings regarding Information Technology- acquisition, business analysis, failure analysis, project management, security…  The general theme I’ve noticed has been this:  Manage your Risks!  One instructor even went so far as to say “God put us here on this earth, and our only job is to manage risk!”  Not just in a business sense, but in all facets of life.  He was the perfect man to deliver this message, as it had worked for him through two wars.  His particular perception was that obstacles to our goals were risks to manage very closely.  In the business of I.T., this meant that everything one encounters is a risk and should be addressed with the appropriate methodologies being taught.

The perspective this demands implies that anything and everything in your environment is there to do some degree of harm or damage to you or your projects.  There is nothing that will assist you so you must take advantage of your risks and shift them to your favor.  I’ll leave the implications of this manner of thinking towards a business perspective out of this.  The implications of doing this personally, of allowing such a perspective,  could be nothing but unhealthy and de-energizing.

So we have this dichotomy of thought.  Are we warm and receptive to those strangers knocking on our door, or, do we allow a fear based reality to exist, where strangers and friends are all risks?

What happens when we apply the ideas of Hospitality or Being Inhospitable to our own personal and spiritual natures?

Are we open to change, to changing ourselves, to shifting our own Energies?  Can we allow the idea that something entering our environment could be an emissary of the divine, a physical “How” of change that the Universe is providing us?  That maybe, the universe is working through us as well?

Erin Pavlina provides a succinct example of this on her blog  (http://www.erinpavlina.com/blog/2008/07/manifesting-a-reading/).  How she trusted her intuition, allowing that “stranger” thought to lead her to something she was meant to do with someone that entered her environment.  It’s a wonderful article worth reading.  Being Hospitable- warm and receptive, inviting – to people as well as the ideas we allow into our conscious takes only a singular decision.  It’s a path of loving Energy.  When we are hospitable, others are the same towards us.  It could be that many of us are afraid of this particular path simply because of the  belief that our kindness and hospitality we will be seen as weaknesses by others.  Somehow we’ll be taken advantage of.  There’s never a way to know for sure unless we try, right?

Being inhospitable is also a state of being called forth by your decision to be so.  It’s a path of cautiousness, of being alert and worried by those people and ideas in our environment.  It’s fear based thinking.  Simply be thinking this way, we draw such inhospitable people and ideas towards us.  Consider this:  we, as a nation, by practicing in-hospitality, have wars that have endured for decades.  Wars on poverty, drugs, terrorism.  Yet, we have even MORE poverty, drugs, and terrorism.

I’ve dealt with a multitude of people and events who ardently subscribe to the “Risk Management” model of life.  I’m sure you do as well, even if those people don’t call it “Risk Management”.  How we can we maintain our posture of Hospitality while dealing with such people?

One of the easiest modalities I have used for this has worked, and continues to work for me.  It diffuses the other persons harshness and allows them the opportunity to reciprocate the kindness.  It’s one simple word.

“And…?”

When people approach me with anger, I allow them the chance to vent and fume their issue to me.  Usually these tirades last a few minutes and I choose to see the situation as one that allows hospitality to be brought to focus.  At some point, the person pauses, expecting a reply that will continue to fuel the exchange.

Reply with a simple, “And…?”.

And they’ll usually continue to rant until they run our of Energy and expect a reply.

“Go on…”,

Allow them to continue to voice the source of their anger and discontent.  And, they usually continue- the rants get shorter, and at some point something happens that will turn the tide, that will shift their focus.

“And then…?”

They hear themselves and what they are saying.  Their anger at whatever situtation, event, or person slowly dissipates because you have allowed them the opportunity to be inhospitable, to air those negative vibrations of Energy.  You have remained warm and receptive to them, not allowing their fear-based perceptions to solicit a reaction from you.  Eventually, their ideas and emotions of anger run out, allowing you to practice your ideas of hospitality.   You’ve not only listened to them, you’ve heard them.  However you address them afterward, whatever advice or critique you offer,  doesn’t really matter.  What matters is that you have given them a model of how to be hospitable by being it yourself.

This modality works with many situations, even friendly exchanges.  How often have you spoke with a stranger or friend or family member, and encouraged them to expound on their positive thoughts by asking “And then what happened?”,  “And then what did you do?”. ..  Your hospitality has now encouraged others by offering them a friendly ear!

However you choose to see the world or treat other people or ideas in your own environment, be gentle with yourself.  Be hospitable with yourself and you’ll be hospitable with others.

Have a Blessed day,

J.Henry

A Money Modality for you to use if you feel that you’re not getting enough of it.

Money isn’t flowing to you? How much crap is in your wallet or purse? Receipts you’ve meant to file or log into your finance tracker, lotto tickets you’ve been holding on to, 15 credit cards and other plastic membership or insurance cards… you know the story. Sometimes where we put our money is a mess. Even if you don’t carry cash, your credit cards represent the cash you would have spent if you did have it.  So why the mess? Why the clutter? Things are getting trapped in your wallet, but it’s not money!

Cleanse that energy. Defatten your wallet or purse.

Remove ALL non-essential items.

Line up your bills so they all face the same way. Have the largest denominations on the bottom of the heap, and the smallest ones on the inside.  Take care in folding them, as if they were the blanket of a baby you are holding in your hand.

Now, get a $100.00 bill and put it in a place in your wallet, away from the other money. Refrain from spending this money unless you *really* must. Anytime you see something you want, tell yourself “I could buy that right now, if I CHOOSE to, because I have this $100.00 bill”, but refrain from the purchase. You are creating the energy of ALWAYS being able to buy whatever you want! When money flows to you, as it will, repeat this process, put five $100.00 bills in your wallet. And the next time, put ten $100.00 bills in your wallet.  Sure, $100.00 does’nt buy a lot, but if you vibrationally spend that $100.00 ten times in one day, you’ve just vibrationally spent $1000.00.

Thin down that wallet or purse so the Universe can fill it!  Try this for at least 30 days to establish this habit into your life.  Make a conscious effort to do a daily cleansing of your wallet or your purse.  Thin down your wallet while visualizing a two inch stack of $100’s so thick, you couldn’t possibly fit it all in!  Start paying attention to the money you do have- fell a sense of joy when you pay your bills because you have the money to do so….

I know you can do this.

Big hugs,

J.Henry

Worries are distractions.

Giving energy to thought of something not working out how we planned or desired can actually hold us back. When it becomes a habit towards a particular thought, it then becomes a worry. Worries are not obstacles, worries are distractions- and even worse, counterintuitive.

When we concentrate on why things aren’t working out, why we aren’t getting what we want, why this or that has gone wrong… we are allowing more of the same to exist in our environment and we then experience MORE worries.

If we have faith in ourselves and Source, Spirit- what we’ve allowed to be in our environment… can we really worry? When we worry, we are telling our environment “No, wait- I still want control over this thing that I desire or would like to have… I haven’t FULLY released it from myself yet to allow it to happen. I’m still holding onto the thought of NOT having it, or it NOT being exactly what I wanted or visualized!” And of course, you are allowed to hold onto it as long as you need- if you want to refine the visualization process, you may. But as long as you refuse to accept it in any other way than what you visualize precisely (as well as exhaustively), it may never come to be.   It doesn’t mean the Law of Attraction does not work.

When we worry, we are really telling ourselves “I don’t have faith that it can happen”. Achieving what we want is releasing what we want. If we hold onto thoughts and feelings of what we choose, desire, want, would like… we will never get what we want, choose, desire, or would like.

Perhaps, simply by desiring something or wanting something, Spirit or Source will bring that to us- only if we allow it. We cannot allow it, when we tell it “I want it this way… precisely”.  Source responds to the Energy we imbue our desires with.  Are our desires or intentions dripping with anxiety and desperation?  Ok, Source will return that to us.  “Oh, you like NOT having this or that because you like to control it by worrying about it… ok, you can have more of the same!”, Source responds to us!  If we imbue our desires, intents, wishes, and blessings with the Energy of gratitude for already receiving it, making it present in our life now, the Source will gladly respond in kind, and we will create this or that in our environment.

“I only want to be in love if the other person is 5’5” , under 120 pounds, makes six figures, has a Masters degree, and so on” What if Spirit would like us to bring someone that is 5’3” and only has a Bachelors degree?! Will we be particular and reject what it brings us simply because we cannot or will not compromise and be flexible?

We like to worry because it is a distraction that hinders us from what we would really like to achieve… Worries deprive us of our connection to Source.  Worries reinforce to us that we are not in control of the matter we are worrying about, when nothing could be further than the truth! Than why worry? Worries take up our time and prevent us from experiencing something that we would really like to enjoy. That something to enjoy has the ulterior motive of changing our lives in one direction or another. Maybe we perceive that change as positive or negative, but we know it is change. It is an unknown until we can experience it. Maybe it’s nice living in the groove I’ve created for myself! Why would we want to change at all?

It’s ok to worry. It’s not ok for worries to engulf your being, your presence, your Energy.  You can live differently if you so choose.  Whatever happens will happen whether you exert Energy by worrying about it or not.  Wouldnt it feel better, for once, to just let it happen in it’s own way?!

If you are plagued by worries about one thing or another, take 5 minutes out of your day to relax and regain your breathing.  Contemplate this:  The Tao Te Ching tells us to be flexible, like a Bamboo Shoot.  Things that aren’t will break.

No Worries, I have faith that you can exorcise your worries out of your Life!

Big Hugs,

J. Henry

YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR THE EMOTIONS OF OTHERS.

There.  That’s out.  It’s a relief, right?  You can not and do not “make” others…. happy, sad, disappointed, unloved, hateful.  If you are making others feel emotions that they, perhaps, would not feel otherwise, then consider the possibility that others also have the power over you to influence your own emotions.  It doesn’t have to be this way.

Maybe to some, this seems like a childish ruse.

“But, I make my wife, child, lover, partner, etc… Happy!”  No, you do not.

Your energy in their presence helps them to resonate with their own energy.  They are “happy ” because they’ve allowed themselves to be, and could be happy regardless of the situation, place, or event.  However, they’ve chosen to be in your presence to resonate with that emotion, in this case- “Happiness”.

No one can “make” you Happy.  Or sad. Or whatever emotion you may be feeling.  You are the creator of your own story and reality, unsullied by what others may feel about you or about what you are doing.  Your emotions are your own. Your emotions are reflected in your actions (doing)  and your  reactions (being) and are indicative of your spiritual nature.

THE ONLY CONTROL WE HAVE IN LIFE IS OVER HOW WE REACT.

Big Hugs,

J. Henry

Chain Current Negative Thoughts To Past Negative Memories and Emotions.

At times we are all inundated with negative thoughts- those nagging pestering ideas of worries and shortcomings that we have allowed fear to lead us to.

Will I make enough money?

Does that person really love me?

Why can’t I be rich?

Am I going to have an accident?

The negative thoughts need not even be questions we ask ourselves but simply images of something negative. We don’t know why they came to us, why we linger on them, why they persist, but we know we need to do something about it. If we choose to live the Secret then we also choose a natural path, a path that allows us to create our reality based on our intentions, our thoughts, and our decisions. Negative thoughts are then something that is directing the rudders of our ship and we choose not to experience that anymore!

The good thing about this lesson is that if you’ve come this far, far enough to have chosen to live a life that is consciously based on the idea of YOU creating your OWN reality (the essential message of The Secret), then you already have the experience to implement it.

We have lived through our share of negative moments, negative situations, negative people, and all of their ugly effects we’ve allowed it to create in our life. It may not be easy and pleasant, but we created those situations. We are responsible for them. Sure, it’s easy to write that, but to live it?

How can an innocent driver be responsible for being killed by a drunk driver? How can I be responsible when my spouse cheated on me? How can an innocent man thrown into prison be responsible for actions others have done to him?

Yes, it’s difficult for many to swallow. Either we take responsibility for all the situations we’ve created for ourselves or we don’t. It’s that simple. Taking responsibility for all that has occurred to us, in the past, both good and bad is the precursor to this particular lesson. You see, once we allow ourselves the realization that we have been creating our lives, for all of our life, albeit to this point possibly unconsciously, gives us the power to do the same, but consciously.

So what, some “bad” things happened to us. At least it’s in a past tense. If it’s still occurring then no one else is to blame but YOU. And Blame is a hard concept in itself- let’s say that when you are ready, and have learned the lesson the “bad” thing has been brought forth (by you) to learn, you’re ready to allow only good and positive things to happen in your life!

Turn those negative thoughts you’re having, the ones that are part of your reality, the ones you give attention (and energy) to, the ones that are clouding your immediate future environment, to something you’ve already experienced. Hook the current negative thoughts to a past negative emotion, a past situation that you’ve already experienced. Then allow that negativity to dissipate into the past.

An example from my own life:

A few times at home before I left for the 35 mile jaunt to work I stressed about the drive on I-95. For those who have never lived through an I-95 commute, consider yourselves lucky! Images of police lights in my rearview mirror, images of shattered glass of an accident on the road, these images stayed with me as I left my home. I don’t know why they came to me, I didn’t like them, and I chose not to experience them or give any more attention to them. So I took those thoughts and chained them to something that had happened a month before in my life.

I was stopped by the military police (MP) on Ft. Drum about a month before those above images crowded my mind. I was unfamiliar with the area, and passed several formations of troops marching along the street. I was going 15 MPH instead of 10. I saw the flashing blue and red lights of the MP in my rearview mirror and pulled off to the shoulder. I experienced the emotions of receiving a ticket, the idiocy of knowing I shouldn’t pass troop formations faster than they are marching, the dissatisfaction of what would happen because of this…. I’m thankful for the experience, because it’s vivid and not only do I remember those flashing lights, but the emotions attached to it.

So, when I had those images, in my daily life, of flashing lights behind me I chained them to my past experience and emotion of it so IT CANNOT INTRUDE ON MY FUTURE. After 14 months those thoughts of accidents and police thoughts are PAST thoughts and don’t invade my reality anymore!

See how that works?! I tell myself “I’ve already experienced that particular negative emotion” then I remind myself- “I’ve already seen those flashing lights… I’ve experienced that, I choose not to experience it again. I remember how it felt, and I remember that despite its occurrence, everything was o.k., everything worked out- and I’m still alive, free, and living; I choose not to experience it again.”

This is a trick, a shortcut lesson. All you are attempting to do is simply control where your energy and attention is going.

Why allow the negative thought to linger? If you do not resonate with its vibration then it will not resonate with yours. If you choose to allow it to resonate with you, then it will.

However, before you let it go, think about what motions/causes you set into effect to cause this experience, or you may draw it back to yourself and your experiences again.

Let me explain: I drew that MP to pull me over by speeding, yet before that I had been creating that very experience. I had random thoughts of getting pulled over before I was. At that time, I would always tell myself I’m a safe driver, I always get to where I’m going safely. Well, obviously, that thought and that emotion were the wrong counter-vibrations offered to the thought of getting pulled over. But getting pulled over has also provided me the opportunity to learn how to chain current negative thoughts to past, experienced ones. I haven’t been pulled over since! When I was, it was a “fresh” emotion, something that I could actually remember how it felt- the last time I was pulled over was so long ago I must have forgotten that feeling.

So what happens when you don’t have a “fresh” emotion to attach something to? You can still attach it to the emotion felt watching a movie, tv show, reading a book, or maybe even something that you saw happen to someone else. The experience does not matter so much as the emotion, the way you FEEL about it.

Remember the emotion, then remember that while that did “happen” you yourself are still ok and alive and free and healthy, then be thankful for all of that.

Doing so ensures that when you experience a negative emotion or thought, or something negative comes into your mind, and you counter it with a similar emotion that causes you to then become thankful and positive, you have not only negated that initial negative emotion but have also offered a higher vibration back to the universe.

You have a wealth of experience to draw upon. When you have a thought that you do not like, that does not feel right, then you are the only one that change it. Maybe others will help us remember that along the way. Maybe we are blessed to have people around us to remind us of that. Maybe it’s a lesson we have to practice over and over to truly learn.

Every time we put this lesson into practice we give ourselves more time with which to direct our attention to the positive, to thoughts that feel good. The more we do this, the more we allow positive energy to flow into our lives.

If you can do this, than Congratulations! You have truly mastered this lesson. You have taken something negative and transformed it into something positive. You have drawn medicine from poison, you have catalyzed the energy of the negative by turning it around to make it a positive in your life. Maybe there’s another part to this lesson that I’ve yet to realize, but I’m amazed that we do possess that power- that transformative power. We do create our own reality by our thoughts!

I would love to hear how you are using this advice in your own life.

Big Hugs,

J. Henry