Cherry Creek Fire
There’s always times that someone looking for help or advice makes their way into your Life and your Perceptions. While it’s “nice” to be helpful, at times many are just in a place that you don’t, and don’t want to, resonate with. As an example, maybe a friend of yours is having some relationship problems, maybe a family member is having financial problems, maybe a business partner is having some legal troubles…. whatever the case may be, they’ve come to you for advice, assistance, help, a friendly shoulder to lean or cry on, someone to hear them out. While it’s certainly fine to listen, they are usually in a place that will prevent them from really hearing what you have to say.
Let me reiterate that. They are usually in a place that will prevent them from fully hearing, fully understanding, and fully comprehending whatever tip, piece of advice, or comforting words you offer. The only way they will hear and understand is if you can relate to them, vibrationally and energetically. They are attempting (or perhaps unconsciously manipulating) to get you to “see” them as someone with this dis-ease or dis-comfort. You get me? When and if you do, then you’re only doing a dis-service to them, and more importantly, to you. To “see” them as they are presenting themselves means you have allowed yourself to become temporarily disconnected from your Source and stream of Life and Energy. You have chosen to “see” them not as who they could be, their version of their highest self, but as someone, consumed with what ails them, is cutting themselves off from their own Source and Stream of Life.
Let’s step back a bit. There’s only Well Being, right? If you don’t believe that, then this might not make a whole lot of sense. It’s really all about where we allow ourselves to exist- on a material and spiritual, non-physical, level. There aren’t any victims, and only we are responsible for where, when, who, and how we are. When we consciously choose the best feeling thought, the best feeling emotion, the best feeling and inspired actions, then we’re allowing that into our life, that what we create.
By choosing to “see” someone needing advice, help, in the midst of their often overwhelming problems, and then rendering aide, you’re bringing yourself closer to them vibrationally. They won’t understand your message or advice or solution because you’re already coming from a point diametrically opposed from where they are, otherwise they wouldn’t really be coming to you for help, etc, would they? You’re in a place they’re not- there’s really no way they can “get” your message until they allow themselves to match your vibration and energy. The more you keep giving what they need, the closer you match their vibration until they do “get” what you’ve been telling them… Now the problem is, you’re not happy because they still have a problem, they’re not happy with your bad advice AND they still have their problem, and the problem is still there without any solution or cure. Sounds like a winning scenario right?
Wouldn’t it be better for all involved if you were just a little selfish? What if, instead of giving them what they need or ask for, you choose instead to:
a) see them as they really are, a vibrant radiant energetic being knowing only well-being. The who they would like to be, their version of their highest self.
b) choose to continue to be happy regardless of the person asking for your help or advice, and regardless of their problem.
c) Appreciate them for who they really are and that their presence allows in you the reminder to continually choose for yourself the best feeling thoughts, ideas, emotions, and actions.
You’ll be happy (still), by not allowing yourself to “see” them as they are presenting themselves, their version of What Is, they come closer to your Energy. Or your Energy just repels them. They may still have the problem, and go to others for what they perceive you have failed to give them, but you’ve chosen to see them as something else. When they sense that you fail to see them “with their problem”, this very well changes their notion of who they could be, and when around you in the future, may not bring that problem with them.
You still get me?
In case you’re still wandering, the “rudest” questions I asked are:
“Are you Happy?”
“What do you want?”
“Who are you?”
Big Hugs,
J. Henry
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I understand what you’re saying, but why are those rude questions?
They’re rude only if the person answering them doesn’t know those answer for their self!